i'm all for meeting boys.
i'm all for spending time with boys.
i'm all for giving boys my number with the hope that they'll call me and ask me out.
what i am NOT for is boys that i don't know well to text me at 11 at night on a friday and say,
"what are you doing?"
boys! do not do this! one, it looks bad.
11 pm? really? that's just asking for a booty call.
two, i do not know you.
that's what a date is for, to get to know someone.
i'm not all that eager to go hang out with someone, last minute at 11 at night.
this has happened to me. several times, in fact.
tonight even. as i was driving home from the longest day ever: 15 hours away from home, working.
my response?
"i'm driving home from work"
as if that's a sentence that screams encouragment, boy says:
"do you want to watch a movie?"
no, i do not want to watch a movie with you! i.do.not.know.you.
and i have enough life experience to know exactly where that is leading.
and i am not that type of girl.
so i told him:
"sorry, it's been a long day and tomorrow's going to be the same, i'm going home to go to bed"
a legitimate answer. and not in the slightest bit rude.
i could have said: "are you out of your freaking mind?! i don't want to hook up with you, i'd like to get to know you, but you're not giving me the chance, nor are you getting my hints (which aren't really hints but rather bold faced statements telling him to actually ask me out if he wants to see me again)"
so boys, if you want to get to know a girl, ask her out.
invite her to an activity, in a PUBLIC PLACE so she feels comfortable.
hang out with her DURING THE DAY so she doesn't feel like all you want is a booty call.
otherwise, you can kiss your chances goodbye.
(at least with me)
